Advice on dating a person with a disability

Loyalty, kindness, understanding, forgiveness, humor—none of these suffer at all from bodily limitations.

In the big picture of love and romance, internals far outrank externals in importance. But don’t be naïve about the limitations dating with disabilities does impose. Account for the realities of the disability when planning dates together.

But as lots of men and women like Stephen and Marietta have discovered, just because a relationship is physically challenging, it doesn’t have to be your cue to run for the exits. The heart works just fine, even if some body parts don’t.

Romantic love depends on intangible qualities that can be affected by a person’s physical condition—but usually aren’t.

That’s when he saw a detail that stopped him in his tracks: Marietta was in a wheelchair.

Her legs were small compared to the rest of her body. “I was used to suddenly becoming invisible to someone I was interested in.

Marietta seemed to know that it was a pivotal moment. Most men can’t see past the chair.” Stephen froze, and for a moment it looked as if he might be like “most men” and turn away.

They move on with their lives, while everyone else complains about the sites and the awful people on the sites.My guy friends (also educated, attractive) complain that they get no responses and female acquaintences tell me that they get so many emails, etc, that they don’t know where to start-and often do nothing.They don’t have time to “date around” several times a week.(actually neither would I). Women, being more vulnerable than men, are more hesitant to date online, so you get a situation where there’s a lot more men than women.A private client told me just this weekend that she’s quitting online dating after three bad dates in a row.Here is what I wrote back to her: First of all, I’ve had EVERY bad dating experience you can possibly imagine.