While other people become infatuated with ideas of romance and love, I have simply never been the overly-romantic type.As such, I often find myself avoiding the act of "casual dating." Most of my relationships seem to develop from the exploration of established friendships or long-running connections.I imagine your friend thought their love was the real thing, too.You are sacrificing a long-lasting friendship for an uncertain future. Best of luck, Erika Erika Myers, MS, MEd, LPC, NCC, is a licensed psychotherapist and former educator specializing in working with families in transition (often due to separation or divorce) as well as individuals seeking support with relationship issues, parenting, depression, anxiety, grief/loss/bereavement, and managing major life changes.Aside from the typical declarations of love to friends, family and pets, I have said "I love you" three times. The thing is, there is a distinguished difference between "loving" someone and being "in love" with someone.I've never had trouble with the first, but the latter has never come particularly easily to me.
You believe this relationship could be serious and real, so why not stop hiding? You can’t expect your friend to be happy for you, not right away, at least, and perhaps not ever.I don’t say this to judge or to blame, but I think it is important to be clear about what has been happening.She will very likely be devastated and feel betrayed by her best friend and by the man she thought she had a lasting future with.This was, essentially, how I eventually fell for my best friend without even realizing it.The first time I met him, I was 19 and starting my first shift at a local bar.