I’m very excited to welcome marriage and family therapist Lisa Bobby to our show today. What are some of the most common reasons that people seek pre-marital counseling with you? Lisa Bobby (): I think there are two main reasons that people seek pre-marital counseling. _____ Jasbina Ahluwalia (): What are the most common kinds of negative patterns that you see pre-marital couples engage in? I think it takes a little bit less to set people off in newer relationships because they don’t have that history. However, it doesn’t mean that older relationships are necessarily better off. _____ Jasbina Ahluwalia (): What do you think is at the root of the pre-marital problems that you see? Lisa Bobby (): When it comes to that very common problem of the pursue/withdraw pattern, it is related to that sense of attachment.
I had the pleasure of sharing the stage with Lisa as fellow panelists at The Great Love Debate in Denver. This could be couples that you work with or don’t, but you know this and you wish they would consider coming in to you. Lisa Bobby (): There is one particular very common relationship pattern that couples very frequently fall into. Attachment is the glue that holds a relationship together.
“One of her dancers was dating a friend of mine and I guess she told my friend that Madonna wanted to meet me.
interview airing tomorrow, Bobby sits down with ABC’s Robin Roberts to talk about the death of his daughter, as well Gordon’s alleged relation to it.
Whitney Houston was long rumored to have had a secret same-sex romance with her best friend and assistant, Robyn Crawford, and Bobby Brown tells Us Weekly in the new issue that it’s all true.
Watch the video above to get the scoop from our editors on this exclusive interview.
On today’s show, we’ll be discussing Lisa’s insights regarding the relationship patterns she sees in her pre-marital and marital counseling practice. You might think, “Now I want to nurture that a little bit more.” I know that you do pre-marital and marital counseling. I’m sure you’ve seen, the person who starts to do that is not necessarily always the same person. It shows how the dynamic of a relationship can be changed by just one person taking that step.“I really feel that if Robyn was accepted into Whitney’s life, Whitney would still be alive today,” Brown says.“She didn’t have close friends with her anymore.” After Houston’s February 2012 death from an overdose of cocaine, marijuana, Benadryl and Xanax, Crawford wrote in a piece for Esquire that the superstar was “a loyal friend” who “looked like an angel.” “I loved her laughter, and that’s what I’ll miss most,” she wrote.In terms of marital counseling, what are some of the most common reasons are seeking that? Lisa Bobby (): The surface problems that people are dealing with can be very different. Most frequently, the problems that married couples have come down to communication. ______ Jasbina Ahluwalia (): In terms of a solution to this, share how you go about repairing the fabric of a relationship to deal with the issues that are coming up to the surface. Lisa Bobby (): There are a number of interventions that we use in marriage counseling. ______ Jasbina Ahluwalia (): Don’t worry about being the first. Even if both people aren’t on board initially, one person can be on board and do that.One of the biggest ones is something that every single one of your listeners can do at home tonight. Then, when both people see the truth in that, I imagine it can be a domino effect in a good way. Lisa Bobby (): That can vary a little bit, person to person.