Modern dating tends to assume that you will spend a great deal of time together (most of it alone).Biblical dating tends to encourage time spent in group activities or with other people the couple knows well.Well, many evangelicals who otherwise believe in the inerrancy of the Bible and who might generally agree with the sufficiency of Scripture have nonetheless embraced the world's ideas about dating.
In fact, it advocates "playing the field" in order to determine "what one wants" in a mate. How can Christians think differently about this pervasive issue in media and culture? The answer to that last question is "not well." Surveys consistently indicate that professing Christians behave almost exactly like non-Christians in terms of sexual involvement outside of marriage (in both percentage of people involved and how deeply involved they are — how far they're going), living together before marriage, and infidelity and divorce after marriage.Indeed, the central issue we need to confront — and the reason I write and speak on this topic — is that when it comes to dating and relationships, perhaps more than in any other area of the everyday Christian life, the church is largely indistinguishable from the world.Biblical dating has as its goal to be emotionally and physically intimate with only one member of the opposite sex ... Modern dating tends to be egalitarian (no differences between men and women in spiritual or emotional "wiring" or God-given roles).Biblical dating tends to be complimentarian (God has created men and women differently and has ordained each of these spiritual equals to play different and valuable roles in the church and in the family).