I want dating to lead to a committed relationship followed by marriage and kids; he doesn’t.
Before the awkward goodbye-hug, he apologized for the misunderstanding.
“I’m only good for getting drunk and having sex,” he said.
I’m a single 32-year-old—young enough to be considered a “millennial” by some, but old enough that my Facebook feed overflows with announcements of marriages and babies.
Is technology fueling a hookup culture, or is some nebulous “millennial mentality” to blame? I decided to call some psychologists and other love experts to find out.
Meet the Millennials From a glance at the statistics, it’s clear that millennials, vaguely defined as those who are 18 to 34 years old this year, are indeed commitment-phobes compared to their parents and grandparents.
Part of this could have to do with commitment issues, Twenge said, since Gen Xers may have had a longer series of serious relationships.
And a recent Gallup poll found that the percentage of 18 to 29-year-olds who say they are single and not living with a partner rose from 52 percent in 2004 to 64 percent in 2014.My outlook may have entered a vicious cycle: It’s hard to get excited about meeting someone who won’t care about you that much.I started to wonder: Is there really a commitment problem among people my age?Fisher’s model of how mating works is that we have evolved three different brain systems for it: The sex drive, intense feelings for romantic love and a desire for deep attachment.These primal systems fly under the radar of our rational, “thinking” cortex and limbic system, which is linked to emotion, she explains.