Ask them if they would sleep with the woman crossing the street.
Ask them if they would sleep with their female econ professor from college.
At Matchmakers In The City, no sex until exclusivity is literally in our official Dating Guidelines, and every day I open up an email with a new success story of a couple who followed it and is now enjoying a fabulous, committed relationship.
I know that this is probably far from the answer that you want to hear, and I know that we all know that couple who hooked up on the first date and is now raising their fifth kid. There are fewer more magical experiences than connecting with another person in such a deep level, and you cannot help yourself but feel incredibly connected to a man after you have sex with him.
But, to quote another great blockbuster, "He's Just Not That Into You," this is the exception, not the rule. But, whether we want to admit it or not, sex is just different for women.
Ask them if they would sleep with your friend Jessica.
Ask them if they would sleep with the barista at Starbucks.
I am going to blow your mind right now and magically read all of your guy friends' minds: the answer is YES. A majority of straight, single men would sleep with a majority of women.
Men whose primary way of meeting women in real life have less options, so when they do meet an incredible women like yourself, they get that it is difficult to find such a catch.
Men who primarily meet women through apps experience the same feelings of frustration and have the understanding that meeting an incredible woman is challenging, but they have a Vegas gambling mentality when it comes to dating.