This breeds a generation of men who have habits of looking after their own needs versus the needs of the collective. Europeans don’t get their sexual education from porn. European men have a different perception of beauty.For example, in the Netherlands, comprehensive sexuality education starts at age four. Instead of cruelly dismissing someone by disappearing, they communicate that they are not interested. As the media in Europe is a lot more heavily monitored, Europeans grow up surrounded by media and images of women who are curvy, comfortable in their own skin, and sensual (versus overly sexualized).We must take a look at who we are drawn to in the first place, and why.If you keep attracting (and are attracted to) men who are emotionally unavailable and who treat you poorly, then it really doesn’t matter if your dating prospects are from France, New York, Vancouver or Mars – the shift needs to occur within you first and foremost.The dynamic may or may not move into a serious relationship, but they are not trying to gather other options or back up plans in case it doesn’t. Americans (both men and women) have been socialized to play games, to act unavailable, to wait a particular amount of time before texting back…There are a set of ritualized rules that are abided by in American dating culture, and if you don’t play within them, you are labeled as desperate or needy or undesirable.
The below is a list of some of the themes and commonalities observed.The American way is loud and even arrogant at times. Call it the revolving door or hedging – there’s the idea in the American approach to dating that there’s always something better around the corner.With European men, if there’s mutual interest, they keep seeing that person and don’t keep hunting for better options simultaneously. Nor will they freak out when discussions of commitment or future come up.We are somehow just as charming as they had hoped We sound like Hugh Grant.And we’re just as timid We simply cannot say ‘literally’ in an American accent In fact, our American accents are nowhere near as good as we thought they were But we love American culture Although we think Franklin & Marshall is a clothing brand, not a university [sc: MPU1] We are somehow sophisticated yet rugged But our teeth are just terrible And we have so much slang it’s unreal We even use American slang that Americans haven’t heard of But it’s still mad funny to make us use American phrases And inexplicably, we genuinely do use the phrase ‘bloody’ [sc: MPU1] We will always apologise when someone bumps into us We didn’t do anywhere near as many after school activities But we can drink way more And have to pick up the pieces when a certain American girl tries to keep up We’ve had loads of girlfriends and don’t understand recreational dating We lazily replace ‘th’ with ‘f’. Hopefully this guide has helped you understand us British boys or how American girls view them.