Dating an asian american man

As I mentioned, these theories and criticisms can sound rather one-sided.However painful or ingrating they may be, it is necessary for us to look at how both Asian American men and women can become the targets of objectification, and how this reinforces and perpetuates ethnic stereotypes against both.Whether it’s dating or marrying someone of a different race, interracial relationships are not a new phenomenon among Asian Americans. These laws actually made the situation worse because Asian men were no longer able to bring their wives over to the U. So in a way, those who wanted to become married had no other choice but to socialize with non-Asians. servicemen who fought and were stationed overseas in Asian countries began coming home with Asian “war brides.” These Chinese, Japanese, Filipino, Korean, and Vietnamese women eventually played a role in developing the Asian American community by sponsoring their relatives to immigrate to the U. These days, Asian Americans in interracial relationships are very common.When the first Filipino and Chinese workers came to the U. After World War II, however, the gender dynamics of this interracial process flip-flopped. One of the best research articles on this topic is a study conducted by Shinagawa and Pang entitled “Asian American Panethnicity and Intermarriage,” reprinted in the highly recommended . The table shows the percentage of six Asian ethnic groups who are married to either someone within their ethnic group, to another Asian (outside their ethnic group), or to someone who is White, Black, or Hispanic/Latino, by husbands and wives. Basically, what these stats tell us is that among these six Asian American ethnic groups, among husbands, the groups that are most likely to intermarry with Whites are Filipinos and Japanese while among wives, it’s Japanese and Koreans.

They also don’t point out the traditional patriarchy and sexism that still exists among many Asian men and their expectations that Asian women are merely their possessions and must obey their every command.Nonetheless, intermarriage is making its mark in the Asian American community.The figure from the Census Bureau chart below reports that among the six major Asian American ethnic groups in 2000, Japanese Americans had the highest proportion of their total population that are in combination with at least one more Asian ethnic group (i.e., Japanese-Chinese) or with at least one other race (i.e., Japanese-White) at over 30%.In fact, these critics would point out that Asian males have been and continue to be purposely portrayed as non-sexual martial arts experts, nerds and geeks, or evil villains, and that this portrayal serves to eliminate Asian males as potential rivals to White males for the affection of Asian women.These critics also note that it is the saddest irony when Asian women either allow themselves to be objectified and fetishized, or when they buy into and accept these demeaning portrayals of Asian men and eliminate them as potential partners.