When Cole and I met, I figured he was in his mid-30’s.
Until, on our first date, he said that he and his friends started their company right out of college…18 years ago.
Their weekends don’t consist of getting wasted and showing off how much he can lift at the gym.
It’s also the little things, like knowing what a coaster is and paying attention to the weather forecast.
Doing the math in my head that meant he had to be at least 40. Most of the time it doesn’t really feel like there’s an age difference, including when we’re with my friends.
have ranged from being unfazed to naming other couples they know with big age differences (I guess to reassure themselves? My mom is only two years older than him” and “He could biologically be your father” (thanks for that imagery…). After going on dates with a barrage of indecisive and ambivalent guys (and being in a relationship with one for two years), this was incredibly refreshing (see #9: If you're the one asking, then you should be the one planning the date). He’s not in the “finding himself” stage, living with mom and unable to decide on a career path.
We were not even let loose into the natural light for our lunch break. One of the joys of single life - especially for people like me who are not only single but also live solo - is that you have a lot of room to arrange your life the way you like it. Unless I have plans to meet someone, the timing is totally unpredictable.
That could mean a lot of routine or a lot of spontaneity or anything in between. But the beginning of the day is something else entirely. Then I check out the New York Times online, then the Huffington Post, and often the Psych Today blogs, too. What I'm doing is getting a sense of what's going on in my world, and in the world-at-large.
If your life has a lot of spontaneity, then you need to settle down; if you have a stable routine, then you are "set in your ways." (Single women contend with their own version - for example, they are sometimes seen either as promiscuous or as poor things who don't get any.) Today, though, I have a different take on the "set in your ways" rebuke: What's wrong with having a routine and liking it?
I've been thinking about this because I just got back from a cross-country trip in which many of my usual routines were disrupted.