When I first came, I felt no guys found me attractive since they never looked my way.Chiara: I heard too that Japanese men weren’t so interested in foreign women but my experience is kind of the opposite.Anthony: I’ve heard so many stories like that where people go on dates and it’s a weird, awkward situation but then later they message you as if it was the best date ever. I feel that Japanese men scare quite easily and as a foreigner you won’t know exactly what it was that freaked them out.Chiara: Or if they don’t want to talk to you then there’s just silence. I’ve noticed that if I show a little too much enthusiasm or come across as too independent, that will trigger silence.’ Rebecca: My experience dating foreign guys here has been comparable to back home – so pretty awful actually – but the general picture of foreign guys in Japan is that they really want to date Japanese girls.
I had heard that Japanese guys tend to be intimidated by foreign women.
She even did it again just to double check and, nope…still nothing.
But after they said goodbye and he messaged her saying he wanted to see her again so there’s obviously some kind of cultural dislocate there.
Rebecca: Yeah, it seems like back home dating is really much more frequent.
I mean I think that people will go on lots and lots of dates, going in and out of relationships over their twenties and kind of assessing what they want before they settle down.