This withdrawal could be an attempt to protect themselves, a general surrender, or a different attempt to gain their partner’s attention or hurt their partners’ feelings.
This does not mean, of course, that a Withdraw-Withdraw Pattern always comes from Demand-Withdraw; if both partners have a personality or natural way of interacting that fits with easily withdrawing from or clamming up in conversation, it has the possibility of developing on its own.
Their natural ways of being, interacting, and communicating with one another become a problematic road-block.
Patterns usually do not exist from the beginning of a relationship.
Or, simply put, “checking out,” of the relationship.
You can probably begin to imagine why it would be difficult and dangerous once a couple has made their way to this point.
This will then lead your partner to feel the same way and you're caught in a never ending power struggle, with a side of resentment.
Though this behavior is done with good intentions, the result is not always positive.Disturbingly, it's also one of the most frequently used responses to conflict in romantic relationships. The silent treatment is part of what is called the demand-withdraw pattern, which happens when one partner makes constant requests of the other and is met with frequent repudiation.Typically, the way the refusing partner expresses their denial is by ignoring their partner, which is of course what is known as the silent treatment. One study showed that it can bring about relationship dissatisfaction, and even divorce.Additionally, patterns can change into new patterns over time.This shift is the result of one or both partners adjusting their reactions or stance in a set of exchanges.