I saw he was coming to LA in the near future and we struck up a conversation on Twitter that quickly went to text. After his set, we met at the bar and talked about a way to get him on my show. He was curious about what I was about, what I wanted to do with my life, what my ambitions were.
I tried to explain the premise of my show.“I know most people won’t care that I think about things because I’m a porn girl, but I’m trying to sneak it in there.
A guy with six pack abs kissing a dolphin with a graduate degree in comparative literature? I love history and music and I have a pitbull rescue named Coco that I’m over-emotionally attached to.
My i Phone is my life, I live out of suitcases, and I haven’t unpacked most of my furniture yet.
He was like something out of a billboard selling cologne, and drove a Mercedes and blasted Band of Horses. That all sounded great to me, and I realized that I really, really didn’t want to tell him about myself. I perform in graphic narratives that people use to get off.
Tinder is a slash and burn campaign through the sexual jungle.Netflix is like weed to me, and I have a diet that involves things called ‘cheat days’ and ‘shame spirals.’ I like the words ‘overmuch’ and ‘evermore.’ I’m a feminist and progressive and have a graduate education and really strong views about the wage gap.I write for an edutainment program about history on You Tube, I have a podcast, and, also, I’m a porn star.”This little chunk of text actually served me well. What I learned is that a lot of people know someone who is in the adult industry and a lot of people don’t really mind potentially fucking a girl that fucks professionally.I became precise in my rejection of people based solely on their looks, age, or interests.But once again, it’s hard to get to really know someone without revealing a key piece of information, mainly that all of your income is derived from the sexual services you sell, and more than that, a brand that revolves around sex.