Question: "I am in the process of getting a divorce.Can I start dating, or do I have to wait until the divorce is final?Most people going through a divorce, even when it is not their fault and even when they have biblical reasons, are usually shattered by the circumstances and not in any frame of mind to be “dating.” People don’t usually make good decisions while “on the rebound.” For a still-hurting divorced person or someone in a painful divorce process to be dating is neither wise nor prudent.The abandoned spouse may indeed be lonely, but making clear-headed, godly relationship decisions in such a situation is difficult, if not impossible." Answer: The question of dating during the divorce process is difficult to answer for several reasons.
The better choice is to abstain from any action that could endanger one spiritually or give the impression to others of a careless attitude toward marriage.
But with brothers I find, that they, too, have internalized a particular relationship to the body-type most associated with the mammy figure.
They see girls like me as sisters, as homegirls, but not as love options, because they don’t find big girls sexy.
Most marriages in Bible times were arranged, and any contact between two prospective spouses was strictly monitored.
In addition, no matter what view one takes on the issue of divorce, it is important to remember Malachi : “‘I hate divorce,’ says the LORD, the God of Israel” (NAS).