When Hope, 45, developed feelings for a local restaurateur in 2009, she knew she would have to talk to him about her diagnosis before things got serious.“I was excited about this blossoming relationship and enamored with this man,” recalls Hope, a freelance communications consultant in Denver, Colorado.With the stigma of self-disclosure, it’s no surprise that discussions about being in a relationship with someone with a mental illness are brought up so rarely.Dating someone who has a mental illness is not much unlike conventional dating.“But I remember thinking, ‘He’s going to freak out when I tell him I have bipolar disorder.’” The “when and how” decision was taken out of her hands when her new love dropped a bombshell: His soon-to-be ex had bipolar and her illness was one reason they were divorcing.
Having bipolar disorder adds layers of complication: Should I trust this new love interest with my diagnosis? If we do move forward, how will the new relationship weather my mood shifts?
Here are some tips to keep in mind if you or someone you know has questions.
As with most aspects of a relationship, communication is key.
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” “My ex was so obsessive.” People often utter those phrases without true regard for what they are really saying, which is reflective of mental illness, instead of speaking to what could better be described as a personality conflict.