”Evolutionarily speaking, mind games may seem like a primal instinct to boost our chances of mating with the best potential partner for reproduction.
Bennett tends to see mind games as "relationship tests stemming from evolution.”“In a way, passing the tests from mind games shows a person’s readiness and fitness” for the long haul, he said.
We’ve all been in this situation: We go on a great first date, head home, and immediately start planning the next rendezvous. Waiting three days to reply to someone after a successful date prevents people from looking too eager or desperate, but the technique, thanks to dating apps and other modern conveniences, is becoming obsolete.
We glance at our phone every 30 seconds in hopes of a text, or a call from our date, and grow impatient by their radio silence. In retrospect, if we were genuinely interested in our date, why didn’t we text first? In reality, it takes only seconds or minutes to text or call someone, even for the busiest professional.
Self-doubt creeps in, and we ask: We finally hear from our love interest three days later, and get the coveted second date for Saturday. So, why do we play mind games, even when we’re romantically attracted to the person?
We’re socially conditioned to think frustration breeds desire, and our own biology helps reinforce this belief.
Lynn Gilliard, author of “ Let Him Chase You,” believes this is why “some people are only interested if they think the person is unattainable, which is why some women gravitate toward married men and some men are even more persistent when they learn a woman is already taken."In a 2009 study in the , researchers presented women with a photo of their potential dream man.
Since it’s in our nature to be competitive, this obsession manifests as a conquest we must hunt to get.
Specifically, women have been found to be attracted to men when they’re uncertain if these men liked them in return.
Researchers believe the reason for this increased attraction is that women may spend more time thinking about these men, and we grow attracted to what we think about.
Evolutionary theorists have often focused on competition when it comes to mate selection.
Dating is often referred to as a game in which we compete to get the attention of a potential, or current lover.