But my sister didn’t share this video on her Facebook page to garner laughs from her friends and family.
It was quite the opposite, actually: my sister was angry at the round’s subject and the subsequent answers given.
This kind of thought is extremely damaging for a lot of fat men, placing all of their value as people into the money or power they may or may not have.
While there are, of course, some people who only seek relationships for money or power, the truth of the matter is that quite often, people will choose to be with a fat man because they actually want to be with him.
With this myth, we have an example of how people attempt to take the agency away from fat people, and really people in general.
The assumption behind this myth is twofold, where people will only be attracted to or seek relationships with a) people who look like them, or b) people who society deems as attractive. What is most directly shown in this survey answer is the idea that fat people will only be able to have relationships with other fat people, whether it’s because they only find other fat people attractive or because that’s all they can get, in the most brutal of terms.
Why else would someone who could presumably get with anyone they wanted choose to be with a disgusting fat man, right?
About a month ago, one of my sisters tagged me in a video she recorded of Family Feud—a game show where two families compete for a cash prize by trying to find the most popular answers to a variety of questions.
On the episode of the daytime game show she recorded, host and comedian Steve Harvey asks the contestants to answer a rather loaded statement: “Name a reason a woman might decide to be with a chubby [or fat] man.” This, as one might imagine, ends up being a rather humorous round for the contestants, Steve Harvey, and the audience.
In some ways, this myth is contradictory with another myth that claims fat men only want to be with traditionally attractive people.
Primarily, though, it’s important and unfortunately necessary that fat men will be attracted to a wide variety of people of all shapes and sizes, and the same goes for fat women.