Among them were two Joshua Harris books about dating and courtship.
As much as I value seeking God first in romantic relationships and biblical dating, I think at some age, you begin to realize that the Joshua Harris style courtship and dating may work for some, but is overall a very bad way to approach relationships, especially if you start reading his books at 13 years old in youth group.
The movement gained widespread exposure following the best-selling response to I Kissed Dating Goodbye, a popular contemporary treatment of Christian courtship by homeschool student Joshua Harris. These principles have been summarized in Leave Dating Behind: a Road Map to Marriage by Christina Rogers within the acronym CARE: Each courtship is unique insofar as the methods used to honor these principles will be unique in every given situation.
I am still a huge believer of only dating people you can see yourself marrying, but I am also a victim of the Harris-ian mentality gone wrong.They have a place in many people’s lives and many young Christians have raved about how it really shaped their future marriage and their relationships. Many young Christian teenagers will enter into dating relationships with the pressure of “THIS IS IT, YOU BETTER BE THE ‘ONE’ AND I WILL MAKE SURE OF IT” and poo-pooing the idea that maybe you have several boyfriends/girlfriends before you meet the person you marry.The reality is that you will change significantly throughout your prime dating years and there are some things you cannot learn until you’ve run into them face to face in a relationship.Yesterday I responded to a post another blogger wrote about what she learned from Joshua Harris.Today I’m following up by discussing what I learned from Joshua Harris.