Megan could have left, but she chose to stay for five more rocky years. For one, he’d never expressed any interest in children. “Looking back I think mainly I wanted to keep an eye on him.” During that period they split and reunited several times, and had a second child. But also, I didn’t want to strip them of their father, half of their identity.” Like many sex addicts, Frank had been sexually abused. Prostitutes don’t take credit cards and fetish shops rarely advertise their businesses on sales receipts. Or he cashed his check and can’t explain where the money went.
“Sexual addiction follows a certain repetitive pattern; if you’d rather ask forgiveness than permission, that’s abusive." Compulsive sexual behavior, the clinical phrase for sex addiction, is what experts call a "progressive intimacy disorder," meaning that it worsens the longer it's left untreated.They’d been married about five years when she found out she was pregnant. “I knew I hadn’t been having sex with anyone else,” she recalls. If she attributes feelings of guilt and shame to, say, her Catholic upbringing, the watchwords are guilt and shame. If he won’t, you can bet it’s not a first, and this could be just the tip of his thrill seeking when it comes to sex. “He told me it was from his brother." The couple began therapy, where Frank quickly realized he was a sex addict. Be wary when a potential partner is unwilling to delay sexual gratification in favor of the getting acquainted stage of a relationship. As we've reported in the the Fix, sex addiction is not recognized by the American Psychiatric Association as a diagnosable disorder.It made an appearance in the 1987 version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), but has subsequently been removed.