There are many women who struggle to find dates, whether it’s because they’re too tall, too big, too whatever. This complaint translates as “the hot woman I want to fuck but won’t give me the time of day can get sex any time she wants.” Beyond that, the ability to get a sexual partner within a pre-set amount of time or with whatever suitable definition of “ease” might be isn’t exclusive to women.
Men have equal ability to find sexual partners as women do…
Guys frequently get hung up on numbers; how many people have you slept with, how quickly can you get a woman to sleep with you. The problem is that men are viewing women through the prism of the male experience: the goal of getting sex as quickly as possible, as easily as possible.
They have a tendency to fall for the old axiom that sex is like pizza; even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good. While exceptions certainly exist, women on the whole don’t approach casual sex the way that men do; they’re not looking for how quickly they can find a pole for the hole, they’re looking for someone who excites them and can provide the sex they want.
I have friends who aren’t conventionally attractive, aren’t especially rich and are certainly not powerful… Men have to be the aggressors, men are the ones who have to make the approach, call first, ask her out, pay for the date… Women are clearly either lazy, entitled or just get off on having men subjugate themselves.
Let’s be honest: more often than not the men who complain most about this are the men who would prefer to be approaching women themselves, whether due to approach anxiety, a fear of rejection or even just not being sure whether or not she’s interested.
Men have to compete in order to win her approval while a woman gets to pick and choose who she wants based on whatever arbitrary standards she feels like in the moment.
Women who aren’t conventionally attractive, whose body types differ from the culturally accepted ideal or otherwise don’t meet one’s personal levels of sexiness are out there, hoping to get laid just as much as everybody else The same applies to women.And to be perfectly frank, if all a woman wants is to get off, vibrators are safer, easier and aren’t going to use the last of the milk in their coffee the morning after.The problem with asking this question is that it assumes that women and men have the same goals when it comes to sex.Because sex is so much more easily attainable for women – or so the conventional wisdom goes – they have luxury of being able to define the standards which men must meet, wantonly cutting off men who are not rich, tall douchebags with square jaws and fast cars.Men feel helpless; they feel that they are forced to leap through hoops in order to win women’s approval and hope that she will pick him against all odds. In fact, not only is the idea that women somehow control all the power in sex and dating not true, but it’s a case of people asking the wrong question.