No, I don’t think becoming potheads is a permanent solution.I’m just suggesting that casting aside your routines and responsibilities might be a way to create some new sparks.From your account, your wife was never that interested in sex, and so you are one of those couples who decided to pair up despite your mismatched libidos.I do wonder about people who think love will overcome this problem, because surely everyone knows marriage and kids rarely heat up things.Dear Prudence, My wife and I have been happily married for more than a decade. I enjoy sex with my intoxicated wife, but I don’t love that she needs to be several sheets to the wind to get in between the sheets.We saw a therapist together for a couple of years; my wife wasn’t interested in sex, and I was. Then, a column of yours from a year or so ago got us even further ahead: You advised a woman to schedule a weekly sex date with her husband and hoped both of them came to look forward to it. She’s consistent in saying it’s not about me, it’s her own stuff.
It may have a lower dependency rate than other drugs, but marijuana can definitely be addictive, and those who start young or smoke daily are particularly vulnerable.A few months ago he seemed to take my concerns more seriously and agreed not to keep pot around the house. I am thrilled we seem to be coming to a place of greater sanity as far as drugs laws are concerned.He's broken this promise several times, and now I feel betrayed in addition to everything else. Our decades-long “war” didn’t stop people from using, but incarcerated millions, many of them nonviolent offenders, and wrecked lives and communities.So I suggest you start by reading See if these books offer insights or case histories that speak to your situation.If you find these, you can ask your wife to look at some passages.