“I just feel invisible,” she said, throwing up her hands.The woman in front of me was a beautiful and successful barrister in her late 30s.It seemed like an easy way to dive back into the dating pool after leaving a relationship.But the anticipated flood of attention was more of a trickle: five messages in three days, and one or two messages each day thereafter.Put off and suspicious that her black skin had something to do with it, Roderique slapped her white friend's photo on the same dating profile, and watched as the messages came pouring in.
Jessica posed for photos while wearing the same clothes Roderique had worn in her own.
So once our inner game is “tight,” how do we raise our VQ, Visibility Quotient?
If you were wanting to make a new impression in person, you’d probably opt for a makeover, right?
"You always wonder what it's like on the other side and I lived it and found out," Roderique said.
"I wasn't expecting the difference to be that stark." Roderique suggests people of colour might find more success with dating offline, or on niche websites.