When the allure of dating someone new wears off, it’s important to accept your partner for the person that you met – even if they are 20 years your senior.An older man usually has an established work, social and home life. Older men are often looking for something consistent. You won’t catch yourself with lingering thoughts of other lovers or competition.After all, there is something innately sexy about a silver fox.He inevitably has a few years on you – professionally and personally.When Cole and I met, I figured he was in his mid-30’s.Until, on our first date, he said that he and his friends started their company right out of college…18 years ago.
While this may seem like a much-needed break, there is potential for you to end up at a home-dinner party socializing with a group that may tell you about their son or daughter that is “just about your age.” Awkward. Dating someone 20 to 30 years older than you means you’re probably going to see time take its toll in many ways.Here is a list the top 5 pros and cons of dating an older man—applicable to most everyone who is older—that I’d never considered: The Bad: 5. Reactions to the age difference from friends, colleagues, family, etc. When Cole asked me on our first date, he suggested a day (Saturday), a time (noon), and three restaurants from which to choose. Cole has a career, a car, a house, plans for the future—I’m not enamored by the material possessions; rather, I respect his ability to commit to things.have ranged from being unfazed to naming other couples they know with big age differences (I guess to reassure themselves? My mom is only two years older than him” and “He could biologically be your father” (thanks for that imagery…). After going on dates with a barrage of indecisive and ambivalent guys (and being in a relationship with one for two years), this was incredibly refreshing (see #9: If you're the one asking, then you should be the one planning the date). He’s not in the “finding himself” stage, living with mom and unable to decide on a career path.Doing the math in my head that meant he had to be at least 40. Most of the time it doesn’t really feel like there’s an age difference, including when we’re with my friends.But sometimes the age difference seems a bit more defined, in good and bad ways.