Then I realized there was a much more useful way of thinking about the role of phone communication.
What kinds of phone etiquette are strategically most likely to lead to success?
But when a person always makes us wait two hours, we ask WTF?
I’ve been wanting to write a post on phone etiquette in dating for a while.
So we’re very careful to avoid doing that, but we often dial it down so much that we wind up coming across as not very interested.
We figure that by waiting a bit we will seem busy, popular, independent.
Charming people focus on others with great interest and convey a warm, friendly demeanor.
In contrast, having a conversation with someone who constantly glances around or keeps saying “just a sec” as they turn away is offensive. Nothing is more manipulated in phone use than the decision about how long to wait before answering a text.