It then becomes important to that person that he or she does what can be done to make a good impression on that other person.He--or she--wants to be liked, and, possibly, loved.Sometimes unpromising beginnings take sudden turns for the better, and people fall in love.But not infrequently, a couple may be strongly attracted to one another on the first date.It is not sensible to pretend an interest in professional sports, for instance, or medieval art, since keeping up that pretense for any length of time would become onerous and unworkable. In fact, I think that is one aspect of doing something interesting during this very early period in a relationship.It should be just a little novel to the other person, and, perhaps, to both people.
But it is an interest that comes naturally and does not have to be feigned.
These activities may be divided into different categories: Of course, if one of the two people have a favorite place, that would probably be a good place to go on a date since it will be endorsed enthusiastically by that person—and enthusiasm is always appealing.
Suggestions of what to do on a second or third date should not come exclusively from the man. What both men and women try to do during these first meetings is to convey something of themselves.
Of course, what strikes one person as interesting may not seem so to someone else.
I think it is reasonable to try to determine what is interesting to the other person; but it is not reasonable to submerge one’s own interests entirely.