Men are not always great at connecting on an emotional level but if a man is serious about developing a relationship with you he will normally overcome his natural reservations and let down some of the boundaries around sharing his emotions.
He may talk to you about his childhood, past relationships and aspects of his life that are troublesome – he will open up to you because he trusts that you will understand him and not judge him – he is emotionally mature and not afraid to show his vulnerability as well as his strengths.
The right man will step up to the plate and ASK YOU for the commitment you’re after…and he’ll swell up thinking it was his idea all along and that he’s “won” you.
If he doesn’t, you’ll know where you stand with him, and you can keep the door open for the man who is ready and able to create an amazing relationship with you.________________________________________________________________________Understanding attraction and how it works is absolutely critical if you want to create a connected, lasting relationship with a man.
And one of the unspoken standards that is most attractive to a man is a woman who is what I call “selective.” HOW BEING SELECTIVE MAKES HIM WANT ONLY YOU When a man has an easy time having a woman fall for him, or a man sees a woman acting in a way that says she will not be okay without his love and commitment, then a man is turned off.
He senses that the reason she wants to move forward is more about satisfying unmet emotional needs than about true connection and appreciation.
On the other hand, when a woman is selective about how and when she moves into a more serious and committed relationship, she’s coming from a place of inviting the man to be with her, but at the same time being clear that her life is going to continue forward and be full and rich no matter what a man does.
MAKING HIM THINK IT’S ALL HIS IDEA So aside from having the right “attitude”, how do you show a man that you’re selective and draw him closer to you?
You can do it by saying something as simple as: “It’s completely your right to date more than one woman at a time, but I want you to know that I’m looking for an exclusive relationship with the right person.