I wish I had done more research prior to my involvement with my ex-fiancÃ©e. In any event, it was me, (me being a masochist) who actually wanted to have it be not passionate, however, he always knew exactly what to do. I tried to tell him in a constructive way that maybe he should have the medication adjusted, and he would take pot shots at me, blaming me. Mine never said he was suicidal but did spent the night in a crisis center when I broke it off with him the first time and then told me about it after the fact. I just sort of blew it off because I hadnât been with someone that was bipolar before. Everyone told me to let him go, because I was in pain with his ups and down. Itâs been 15 months since our breakup and we only went out 10 months and I am still reeling from it. He wonât allow me to love him and he wonât accept it.I am hoping by posting this I will help someone else before they subject themselves to the pain that many of us have or are still enduring by loving someone with the terrible illness...... And for the few of you that actually have survived relationships through this illness. ok, I have to say, I read all of that, and sympathize with you because of the pain... He's prescriptions (which he later stopped taking-- breaking me into pieces by ending our relationships) always made him weak and not be able to climax, he always make sure I was satisfied in other ways, and emotionally. The first thing I did after our breakup was to call his ex girlfriend and we had the best heart to heart talk for over an hour regarding him and I had found out it was worse for her. I would get many many dark e-mails in which he said the mantras are f-ing with his head, and that he was going to the dark side where no one could help him. Agree-- "told me he didnât think anyone could be as supportive and loving as his parents had been in his life" how odd, that they see their parents as their only link or hope. "said I would end up leaving like all the rest" they know it. They will burn through another woman and the cycle continues. And me being an unstable person as it is, I couldnt handle the extreme unstability he was providing me, however, bipolars need love to do they not? Im still so depressed over it (4 months afterwards.) but I really want to know... He now has sunk to the bottom of his darkness and there is no reaching him.After our first date he was honest and told me he had been diagnosed with biopolar ii disorder and was taking medication.I immediately thanked him for his candor and told him I wasnât interested.I would never ever get involved with someone again in the future that was bipolar because of this experience, and sadly I have met and read a lot of people who have similar stories to mine. =( and then the second time, never bad was done, and he doesnt even pick up his calls. Never was controlling or manipulative, howver, towards the end, he just never was around and was too busy with other activities. Realistically, the relationship never would have worked, but he never said it, but always said I was too good for him... And me being an unstable person as it is, I couldnt handle the extreme unstability he was providing me, however, bipolars need love to do they not? Im still so depressed over it (4 months afterwards.) but I really want to know... While he may be bipolar, a lot of what you have written sounds like Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
He wrote me back an e-mail which made me feel horribly guilty.
It was painful, and out of control and there was nothing I could do about it. When he knew I wanted sex, he always made an effort, even if he was tired or sleepy.--except when we were ending. He took showers with me a lot, but did prefer his privacy at times...
In the end, I said I wanted out and he threw me and my daughter out of the streets with no where to go. =( I really exhausted him physically now that I think about it. But if I asked him to shower with me, he never turned me down. Towards the end he became suicidal, talking about hating his life and wanting to die.
However, I must disagree with the majority of things you have said about bipolar. I must disagree with the "lack of showing affection" as being a bipolar characteristic, simply because my ex was the opposite. Holding hands in public, kissing, and he was actually the cuddler. The only time I ever felt like sex was forced was when I knew our relationship was ending, which was the last time I ever saw him or spoke to him. When it came to sex in public, he was actually not like that what-so-ever. They dated for a year and a half and he never got off with her during sex. He told me that if anything ever happened to his parents he couldnât go on living. So, I always asked them (my friends) why should they not be in a relationship. I know our breakup devastated him and he will continue to blame me for his unhappiness. I honestly think in my case he showed me aspects of his personality that he never showed anyone else before and we became very close at one time.
I think you just had a really bad experience with a man. I would like people to respond to see if your statements are accurate, or if the guy had other major problems going on. Although my ex-bf and I didnt have anything in common I think that is what drew us close together. (at that time, it was almost a month since he stopped taking the prescriptions.) 4. It took me a while to make him agree to let me go down on him in the movie theatre. However, he did mention his past relationships, and he never spoke bad of his exes. But I think watching others would be fun--and I am not bipolar. She said it felt forced and she felt he wasnât turned on by her. It made me feel better, knowing it really wasnât me after all, but made me feel sad again for him, because he is unable to be âintimateâ. He never pointed out how much money he spent on me. He also invested over 25k into our relationship, supporting my daughter and me for several months before we moved in with him, bought us both so many gifts and loaned me money for my business.