It doesn’t matter what kind of attention you’re giving us -- if it’s too much, you seem like a serial killer.Nice guys are Girl #2; guys who ignore us are Girl #1.It’s usually unfair to group men of any kind into a stereotype, but we can make that rule permissible for the sweethearts who experience an identical outcome to their time-consuming (and expensive, holy hell) courting and wooing -- they never get the girl. Their text messages are left unread, their DMs are unopened, and the girl they just bought an expensive dinner for has seemingly passed onto the Great Beyond and ghosted them. It’s like “OK, I just did everything in my power to make her feel special and beautiful, and in return she sh*t on my whole life.”Resenting women in general would seem like the next logical step in thinking, with abundant evidence supporting the hypothesis that women love assh*les more than nice guys. After all, men and women have the same end goal -- we just prefer different deliveries. The next day, she texts you thanking you for such a great time, asks how your day is going, maybe sends over a thoughtful article on topic with the intelligent discussion you had over dessert. She texts you thanking you for such a great night, and when you don’t answer after five minutes, she asks if you’re cheating on her.
As women, we are fully aware that we have done nothing at this point to warrant your loyalty or admiration besides sit there and not be horrible. I’ve gone on dates with guys who were perfect on paper -- sweet, intelligent, attentive…ugh, really just too attentive.
When I have sh*t to do and a guy won’t stop bugging me I think, “Jesus, if he could just go away and ignore me for one week, I would actually like him.”It isn’t fair to a woman to impose any amount of commitment on her immediately, whether that expectation is to text you constantly or spend all of her free time with you.
She probably has stuff to do, and until she is your girlfriend, you should assume there are other guys on the table as well.
Few moments have single men more excited then getting a girl’s number.
There’s an immense joy in knowing you now have an open line of communication. A number may be a green light, but you still have to get her on a date.