It's also hard because women legitimately change their mind about you pretty rapidly, depending on the vibe you give off.
If you want to improve your skills at reading the signals women give, I suggest you start by understanding the theory of attraction - and why women sometimes give mixed signals - and then learn these subtle body language cues.
Last week, we sent out a survey to 70,000 guys on our mailing list, asking three simple questions about their dating lives. Hundreds of guys filled out the survey, sharing their biggest frustrations, obstacles and goals.
And the answers we got were inspiring, fascinating and gave us some great information we're going to use to give you guys better advice.
But even once you've recognized the mistakes you're making, sometimes it's still hard to change your behaviour. These problems: where you know you're doing something wrong, but you keep doing it over and over again, we refer to as sticking points.
A sticking point is when you know what you need to do, but you just can't make yourself do it - you're stuck.
But before I start, I just want to say one thing that I thought was awesome.
Out of the hundreds of guys who replied to this survey, nobody wrote anything negative about women.
These guys wrote in saying things like: Flaking is something that most guys start dealing with as soon as they learn to be assertive and ask for the phone number in the first place.Also, we were able to make an awesome word cloud out of the responses. This was the first question our survey asked, and the results taught us a lot about the real problems guys out there are facing.As the responses started coming in, Derek and I read every single response. Guys were responding over and over with the exact same problems.I'm going to devote a future post entirely to the different signals you get from women and how to interpret them.18% of our respondents wrote back that their biggest frustration was having difficulty creating or keeping attraction.