Falling below expectations Of the first few men I went on dates with, a San Francisco-based Chinese guy came closest to my criteria.We chatted for six months before meeting up in San Francisco for a meal when I was en route to Mexico for a holiday. Although we lived miles apart, it wasn’t an issue because I was cool with the idea of relocation if it came to that.I can be picky, and having studied abroad, I saw myself as independent and well-travelled.I wanted someone with a global mindset, preferably an American-born Chinese (ABC) who should not be more than five years older.A friend introduced me to dating site Asia Friendfinder, which connects Asian singles online for US a month.
I didn’t mind taking the initiative to message guys I was interested in, asking about their hobbies or profiles. When guys messaged me, I’d only respond to those who asked about my interests – travelling, reading and cooking.
While smartphones and apps have made Internet dating a breeze – I no longer have to wait till I’m home and in front of the computer to check e-mails – I now stick to Tinder and one website, because you tend to see the same few people on a platform after a while.
It’s harder than ever to meet decent guys, thanks to cyber- scammers.
We shared the same relationship goals – we weren’t dating ‘just to have fun’. I texted him a few times, but he never replied, so I got the hint fast.
I was upset, but I backed off to maintain some pride.